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The Dos and the Don’ts of change.

“If you can’t visualize it, you can’t achieve it.”

Failures often come from lack of energy or lack of resources, but intermittent failure is still on the pathway to success. Progress isn’t always linear and inconsistent failure should be expected. It’s consistent failure that we want to protect against.


We may lack confidence, knowledge, and/or resources to initiate and sustain the changes we are trying to implement in our lives. We may procrastinate or feel paralyzed by fear. We may be dealing with other issues of grief, loss, or mental and emotional struggles that are creating roadblocks for progress. If any of these areas are consistently holding you back from overall health and well-being, please consider speaking with an EAP counselor for support.

Stress, unrealistic expectations, overexertion, and any number of environmental changes or glitches can derail us on any given day.

When we are vulnerable or feel unsupported, it is harder to think about making bold changes in our lives. The short-term comforts and familiarity compete with long-term goals for change.


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  • Don’t set a deadline. While it might take only a few weeks for some people to form a new habit, it may take up to a year for other people. Be flexible and forgiving, in order to adapt the schedule to reach your goals.
  • Don’t be discouraged by past failures. You might know now what you didn’t know then.
  • Don’t try to change too much or too many things too soon. Smaller chunks with high success ratios expand and spread into other areas of our lives. Too big, too soon can be short-lived.
  • Don’t try to make a change without passion or purpose behind it. If you don’t really want it bad enough – if it’s not personal and connected to your life’s desire – it can be almost impossible to achieve.
  • Don’t try to make changes without a plan and support.

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  • Know what you want to change. If it’s a change you haven’t had a choice in, think about how you want to be able to manage it.
  • Do your research. This builds excitement, but will also help you to become aware of areas of challenge.
  • Surround yourself with others that support your vision. Avoid those who try to tear you down.
  • Imagine yourself after making the change with optimal outcome. Do this in as much detail as possible. If you can’t visualize it, you can’t achieve it.
  • Demand perfect effort, but not perfect results. Remember, change is not linear.
  • Break it into manageable chunks. Work consistently toward change is your best chance for success.
  • Make one small change a day. Do this repeatedly.
  • Keep your eye on the prize – but focus on the journey, as well.

For tips on how to set yourself up to successfully make changes in your life, be sure to catch our next blog!