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The Story of Jim & Judy: Part 1

A struggle with healthy boundaries within a marriage.
By Vic LeBouthillier

This is the story of Jim and Judy, a married couple who seem to be struggling with getting their personal needs met within their relationship.
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By |October 13th, 2016|Healthy Relationship|Comments Off on The Story of Jim & Judy: Part 1

An Effective Process for Setting Healthy Boundaries

A guide to setting boundaries with others.

By Vic LeBouthillier
“You deserve to have reasonable things that are important to you.”
With a small amount of support, almost anyone can learn the skills needed to succeed in establishing healthy boundaries. First, you must understand these four important things: […]

By |October 11th, 2016|Healthy Relationship|Comments Off on An Effective Process for Setting Healthy Boundaries

Why Are Boundaries So Difficult to Set and Maintain?

Why most struggle with healthy boundaries.
By Vic LeBouthillier
“Our inability to create boundaries comes mostly from the lack of healthy modeling provided by our parents/caregivers when we were children.”

How is it that some people have healthy boundaries, while most people struggle with them? Well, there are two main reasons for this. […]

By |October 6th, 2016|Mental Health|Comments Off on Why Are Boundaries So Difficult to Set and Maintain?

What Are Boundaries & How Do They Apply to Your Life?

A definition of, and a self assessment for, healthy boundaries.

By Vic LeBouthillier
“Becoming aware of what boundaries are and learning how to implement them into your personal life reduces relationship conflicts and stress.”
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By |October 4th, 2016|Healthy Relationship|Comments Off on What Are Boundaries & How Do They Apply to Your Life?

An Introduction to Boundaries: The Imaginary Fence

A key factor in healthy relationships and mental well-being.
By Vic LeBouthillier
“Boundaries are the borders separating where you end and I begin.”

 
Like an imaginary fence, boundaries provide a sense of space and protection between us and the people around us.
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By |September 29th, 2016|Healthy Relationship, Mental Health|Comments Off on An Introduction to Boundaries: The Imaginary Fence

Connections and Engagement: A Friendliness Survey

A close look at the effect of various types of social interactions

By Vic LeBouthillier
In 2011, the Vancouver Foundation polled 275 charitable foundations and 100 community leaders to find out what they believed was their most pressing issue. To their surprise, it wasn’t poverty or homelessness; It was isolation and disconnection.

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By |September 27th, 2016|Engagement|Comments Off on Connections and Engagement: A Friendliness Survey

Two Examples of How to Build Close Relationships

How two people learned to build and benefit from close relationships

Tom: 37, husband and father of two. Works as a store’s general manager. Lonely, but with a chance of a breakthrough.

Tom worked hard to get to where he is and had to step on a few toes in the process. He hired several friends to work for him, but when they didn’t perform like he thought they should, he isolated himself and became distanced from them. According to Tom, “It’s just business.” But then he began to feel isolated and distant from everyone, even his family. When his […]

By |September 22nd, 2016|Healthy Relationship, Mental Health|Comments Off on Two Examples of How to Build Close Relationships

How to Create Close Friendships in Your Life, Part 2

More tips for working towards close friendships with others
By Vic LeBouthillier
“You need to be generous and prioritize your time in order to maintain close friendships.”

 

In our previous blog, we began discussing ways to create close friendships, based upon the list of behaviors associated with close friendships. Here is a continuation of that list! […]

By |September 20th, 2016|Healthy Relationship|Comments Off on How to Create Close Friendships in Your Life, Part 2

How to Create Close Friendships in Your Life, Part 1

Tips for working towards close friendships with others

“Regardless of where we are now, we can all improve our friendship skills.”
Each of us may be at a different place in terms of our skill level and the value we put on friendship. Regardless of where we are now, we can all improve our friendship skills. In one of our previous blogs, you first saw a list that reflected behaviors that are characteristic of close friendships. Here, we offer tips on how to introduce those behaviors into your life: […]

By |September 15th, 2016|Healthy Relationship|Comments Off on How to Create Close Friendships in Your Life, Part 1

Why Close Friendships Can Be So Challenging

Two main reasons some people have difficulty being close to others
“If you have multiple fractures that have never fully healed, putting yourself in a position to experience new turmoils and fractures may seem impossible.”

There are two main reasons why some people don’t have close friendships, or why they may find it so difficult to form close friendships. Read through the following two examples and descriptions, and think about whether or not either one is true for you. […]

By |September 13th, 2016|Adverse Childhood Experience, Healthy Relationship, Mental Health|Comments Off on Why Close Friendships Can Be So Challenging